How Nurturing Sibling Relationships Creates Forever Best Friends

How Nurturing Sibling Relationships Creates Forever Best Friends

Nurturing sibling relationships is an aspect of parenting I want to thrive in! Mothering and parenthood are legit hard. It’s a high and holy calling on us. And I hope something shared here can bring more peace to your home, where there might be chaos.

I do not get it right every time, and I do not know all the things. We struggle and have hard days and weeks, just like everyone. However, because we put an emphasis on our children getting along with each other – and have from the very beginning – they are best friends. Here are the things we purposely implemented in our family culture to nurture the relationships among our children.

Valuing Sibling Relationships

First and most importantly, we view siblings as a gift in our family. My husband and I don’t take the value of this special bond for granted among our 3 kids. I grew up as an only child. As a kid, I longed for that best friend who would be with me through thick and thin no matter what. I wanted so badly a connection like reading each other’s thoughts without saying a word.

Childhood friendships can graze the surface of this, but those relationships tend to be fluid and temporary. They depend on where you live, what school you go to, etc. And those things often change. But siblings are with you forever. They’re stuck with you, ha! That is the biggest motivator for how we’ve taught our kids to view each other. Siblings are a gift.

Teaching Conflict Resolution

Teaching conflict resolution is essential to nurturing sibling relationships. I have shamelessly been a helicopter parent regarding conflict resolution with our children. This meant having them repeat what I say when resolving a conflict (over and over again). I intentionally taught them the words and tone to use when speaking to each other.

I took the time to explain why their sister or brother was feeling a certain way. If one child did something hurtful, I would tell them to look at their sibling and say, “Look at their face. They are sad. It made them sad when you did XYZ. You need to say sorry and make it right.” I start this around age two. This helps develop awareness and empathy for others.

Only recently have I started letting my 5 and 7-year-olds work out their conflicts independently. And it’s been a joy to hear them both state their opinions on a situation and come to their compromises. It makes all that hard work I did when they were younger worth it.

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